Monica Speaks about her Relationship, Children, and Friendship with Brandy

If you don't know by know that Monica has moved on and started dating the LA Laker's own, Shannon Brown, then you must be living under a rock.

We love MONICA for her realness and inner and outer bueaty. She is a mother and role model to so many women out there who aspire to bring positivity to their lives and the lives of their children.

Watch her interview with RAP-UP.com to see her dish about her new boyfriend, having more children in the future and supporting her childhood rival who is now like her sister, Brandy.

All My Single Ladies...

Maybe he did like it... he just didn't see the need to "put a ring on it" because there are 1.8 million
more of us where it came from...

This is an old topic, but a not so old post. For some reason or another due to my holiday festivities I forgot to post it when I originally wrote it...But moving on, I heard about this news package from Nightline and after I stopped cringing and rolling my eyes, I thought about this as an interesting topic for single Fabulous Brown Girls that has been around since I was little Now that I am kind of at that burgeoning stage, the more it is dwelt on, the more disheartening it becomes.

Fact (according to Nightline): There are 1.8 million more black women than men.. So after you take out all the "wack" dudes (and I mean that in the nicest way... ), the amount of eligible black men is cut in half! Great way to keep us optimistic...

Black women seem to have it all--Looks, Education, Money, etc. etc. We have nice updated houses, nice luxury cars, take trips to exotic places, and love the LORD! We can control our professional and financial aspirations to a certain degree, but the one thing we can not conjure to a perfect equation is finding love with a black man.

Do you notice that when we see BLACK LOVE we celebrate it like our favorite sports team just won a championship.. Why do we as women do that? Is it because we don't see it enough in our everyday lives and lives of our families, is it that rare, or is it because it is barely thought of as successful.

Just the other day there was controversy over the newest Essence cover that is graced with New Orleans Saint and Heisman Trophy Award winning, Reggie Bush. The controversy is mainly because it is Essence's black relationship issue and the last time we checked Bush has yet to publicly date a black woman (but can keep an Armenian on DECK!), so why is Bush being celebrated on the cover story of a magazine targeted for Black women, when he doesn't want US!?

Personally, I just think it is for the purpose of eye candy to push the magazine (we all know how the industry is going) off of the shelves more so than an accurate and genuine black relationship expert.

Unfortunately, I don't think this so-called epidemic of Successful Single Black Women (or SSBW) is going anywhere. I am not fond of mainstream media pointing out this epidemic so we can continue to be reminded of it when we turn on the news. That's why we watch TV so we wont have to be reminded of our own problems!!

I don't think I have a long list when it comes to having standards, but I do have standards and I will not compromise on what I deem worthy for myself. PERIOD.

I don't think Black women date outside of their race out of spite because they are angry with black men for doing it to them. I think they date outside of their race because they have opened their minds to seeing whats out there. If black women happen to find love with a man outside of her race its because the man is truly doing what she feels is worthy of what she deserves.

ESSENCE (one of my favorite magazines) has an online article on THE BLACK MALE SHORTAGE or TBMS.. Check it out!


Fabulous Brown Girls, What do you think of the SSBW and TBMS????.... Leave a comment

What to Give a Fabulous Brown Girl for the Holidays!

So the Holiday Shopping season is under way with the start of Black Friday! I hope you didnt do too much damage! So I have been inpsired to make a post about what is on a Fabulous Brown Girl holiday list! Even though we love giving back to others, recieving some nice trinkets never hurt either. Check out with this FBG (and I'm sure many others) wants for Christmas! Hopefully, Santa thought I was a good girl this year!

• Carol's Daughter or any natural beauty products line. I am big on fragrance and nourishment's and natural beauty products do just that. If you are a true FBG than you definitely know about Carol's Daughter and all of its greatness. Plus the founder, Lisa Price is a FBG who found her passion of making organic beauty products and she is opening doors for a lot of other woman to follow in her footsteps

• Mini Notebook are perfect for an even more portable laptop that is perfect for the FBG on the GO. Their screens are mainly no bigger than 10" and weigh no more than 3 pounds so it can fit in any oversized bag. IT's great for blogging, checking emails, drafting proposals, and of course SOCIAL NETWORKING.. got to keep up with those Twitter and Facebook pages!

• Coastal Scents 88 eyeshadow palette is is great for FBGs like me who love to play in makeup and are still "entry-level" fab! This palette has every color you will ever need all for under 25 dollars! I know many FBGs who own this palette and swear they can't live with out this highly pigmented color wheel for your eyes!

• Spa Day - Self explanatory! Every woman over the age of 18 deserves to be pampered at least once a year so why not make it her gift for the Holidays.. I promise you won't get a side eye on this one!

• AMEX Gift Cards are as good as money and come in handy for anything we may need. Some people are just not naturally good gift givers..no matter how hard they try they can't seem to think of something they are willing and happy to get without just downright asking. No need to grow any gray hairs over it, just go to your nearest store and pick one up. Your holiday shopping will be done before you know it and your FBG will be smiling from ear to ear!

So FBGs, whats on your Christmas List this year!

If You're Not Married, Your Single

One of my Fabulous Brown Girl readers put me on to this young gentlemen in the video below. He is a no holds bar commentator on subjects that us young professionals are going through on a daily basis. And he gets extra points for being from my hometown of Houston, TX.. His HTOWN drawl is classic!

Check out what he has to say about people who are not married, but think they have rights to a person, when in actuality you are really single until you are married-- no matter how long you have been with him or her. In my opinion his points are valid, but I am sure he has a lot of people who challenge him. I personally agree with him on a lot of his points! Watch his video and decide for yourself.

Check out his own blog - iHustleNation.com . I think his views do hit home for a lot of different reasons.

Watch and leave a comment to let me know what you think!