All My Single Ladies...

Maybe he did like it... he just didn't see the need to "put a ring on it" because there are 1.8 million
more of us where it came from...

This is an old topic, but a not so old post. For some reason or another due to my holiday festivities I forgot to post it when I originally wrote it...But moving on, I heard about this news package from Nightline and after I stopped cringing and rolling my eyes, I thought about this as an interesting topic for single Fabulous Brown Girls that has been around since I was little Now that I am kind of at that burgeoning stage, the more it is dwelt on, the more disheartening it becomes.

Fact (according to Nightline): There are 1.8 million more black women than men.. So after you take out all the "wack" dudes (and I mean that in the nicest way... ), the amount of eligible black men is cut in half! Great way to keep us optimistic...

Black women seem to have it all--Looks, Education, Money, etc. etc. We have nice updated houses, nice luxury cars, take trips to exotic places, and love the LORD! We can control our professional and financial aspirations to a certain degree, but the one thing we can not conjure to a perfect equation is finding love with a black man.

Do you notice that when we see BLACK LOVE we celebrate it like our favorite sports team just won a championship.. Why do we as women do that? Is it because we don't see it enough in our everyday lives and lives of our families, is it that rare, or is it because it is barely thought of as successful.

Just the other day there was controversy over the newest Essence cover that is graced with New Orleans Saint and Heisman Trophy Award winning, Reggie Bush. The controversy is mainly because it is Essence's black relationship issue and the last time we checked Bush has yet to publicly date a black woman (but can keep an Armenian on DECK!), so why is Bush being celebrated on the cover story of a magazine targeted for Black women, when he doesn't want US!?

Personally, I just think it is for the purpose of eye candy to push the magazine (we all know how the industry is going) off of the shelves more so than an accurate and genuine black relationship expert.

Unfortunately, I don't think this so-called epidemic of Successful Single Black Women (or SSBW) is going anywhere. I am not fond of mainstream media pointing out this epidemic so we can continue to be reminded of it when we turn on the news. That's why we watch TV so we wont have to be reminded of our own problems!!

I don't think I have a long list when it comes to having standards, but I do have standards and I will not compromise on what I deem worthy for myself. PERIOD.

I don't think Black women date outside of their race out of spite because they are angry with black men for doing it to them. I think they date outside of their race because they have opened their minds to seeing whats out there. If black women happen to find love with a man outside of her race its because the man is truly doing what she feels is worthy of what she deserves.

ESSENCE (one of my favorite magazines) has an online article on THE BLACK MALE SHORTAGE or TBMS.. Check it out!


Fabulous Brown Girls, What do you think of the SSBW and TBMS????.... Leave a comment

FBG Spotlight: PROPEL Conference in Atlanta, GA

Here at FABULOUS BROWN GIRL, our mission is knowing that being fabulous means doing so much more. For the past two months or so we have been a part of the planning steering

committee for the PROPEL Conference, a free conference hosted by the Community Council

of Metropolitan Atlanta for young black men here in Atlanta, GA. The conference's mission was to Provide Resources, Opportunities and Priorities to Empower Lives for over 250 young black men.

The conference was packed full of young men eager to learn about resources that are available to help them.


Some notable speakers who spoke were the President of Clark Atlanta University, Dr, Carlton E. Brown, the Chairman of 100 Black Men, Thomas W. Dortch, Jr., Michael Rhodes, Entrepreneurship Program Director at Atlanta's Urban League Chapter.

PROPEL's Steering Planning Committee was a group of recent Howard University Alumni who worked diligently and hard to make sure every aspect of the event was a success. The Steering Chairwoman was Brittany Slaughter who worked alongside with the Bukola Ekudayo, Janelle Jolley, Nandi Murphy, Simone Walls, Dominique Witter, and myself, Christine Idokogi.

Boxed Lunches for the PROPEL conference attendees

Thank you to all those that donated to make the conference a complete success!